Let’s jump into it. It’s been a minute since I posted, so let’s not waste time with unnecessary chatter. Today, we’re discussing first intimate moments.
First kisses can be so interesting. You’re nervous. You wonder if you’ll feel something as much as you may or may not have built the moment up in your head. First kisses can be so fluid or so awkward. BUT, that does not make it a bad kiss. I remember my first kiss, which was stupid awkward, but the relationship that came out of that one moment endured so much. Plus, it’s a funny story. I don’t want to mention it here, at least not yet. I remember another first kiss that makes me smile when I think about it. As she was getting out of the car after a cute moment we had shared, she removed her glasses, but her nose piercing got caught and fell off. One moment, I’m thinking about the kiss, the next we’re both outside the car, looking for her piercing. That sticks out to me more than the actual kiss. But, that’s not to say I didn’t appreciate the moment, It’s comical. And cute. And of course, it would happen to me.
The first time you have sex with someone. Sex to me is more than just sex. It’s knowing someone on an intimate level, it’s about connecting, it’s spiritual. But, sometimes, it doesn’t necessarily click the first time. And that’s perfectly okay with me. Just like first kisses. It’s an unrealistic standard to set for each other that the first time you are intimate with one another on that level, that it’s automatically going to click and you’re going to do everything perfectly as the other would want. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it may actually be like that. But, reality is, more often than not, it is not like that. And that is ok. Sex, like kisses, get better when you learn what the other person does or does not like.
The point of this post is to say, don’t put so much pressure on yourself or your partner over something that requires the two of you to communicate with each other to make better. I think part of the problem is media and the energy it gives off when it comes to the topic of first kisses or the first time you link up with someone physically. Generally speaking, there isn’t the right kind of music that starts to play as you begin to come together; there aren’t fireworks out in the sky with the brilliant moon looming overhead. Unless you plan the fuck out of that first time, it won’t encompass any of these things. The reality is, the moment is about the two people. We are not doing ourselves any favors with the unnecessary pressure. Just enjoy each other’s company and the rest will surely fall into place. Go with what the moment presents itself in the moment. I promise, the rest will come together. You owe it to yourself and you owe it to each other.