You ever encounter a situation in which the life you live is reflected back at you in bright shining lights; the likes of which you cannot avoid or run from. I’m reading a story which keeps telling in more ways than one that the person in my life I thought was supposed to be by my side forever and thereafter is actually not for me at all. It’s not that there’s something she’s missing or there’s something I’m missing. The reality is we are two perfectly shaped and molded-by-life-experiences individuals. We are perfect and whole as we are.
I thought the women we were becoming was leading us down a path where we left behind seeds which would blossom into the many things that we could look back at later down the road when our physical bodies needed to slow down. However, it seems somewhere along the way, we began moving away from each other and started forming a crossroads. And now here we stood.
Here’s the funny thing. I have no regret or animosity in my heart for this woman. As a matter of fact, I have so much love. We had a choice before us. I pick myself up and she picks herself up and we part appreciating the love we shared, the life we built, the wisdom we gained. We think of each other from time to time. At first, there’s too much hurt to appreciate the good we shared, but then as with everything else in life, time takes over. We heal ourselves of our hurts. One day as we’re walking along our individual life paths’ we come to the realization that, yes, we wished each other the best, we weren’t the best for each other, but as time wore on, we realized that we were two good people who just couldn’t figure out how to love each other as we needed to be loved.
And then there was a second choice…we look at each other and recognize the distance that we have put between ourselves. And pick back up the tools that we used to create these far-off distanced paths and work. Work to bring us back to a single cohesive path. Only this time, we recognize that we have to come together with more than a dirt path. We start to build a path that stands to last the test of time. Everything that is and was came from nature and back to nature it will go when we are no longer here. We recognize that as we walk this life’s journey, we need to take a break to nourish the path we are walking, to water the seeds we are planting. Our lives are different, we have to understand that there may be times when we have to take side roads separately every now and then, however those side roads need to come back to the path we are building together. We are two individual souls who need our independent nourishing, however together we form a unit that walks hand in hand under God’s light. It takes time, it takes effort, and lord knows it takes hell of a lot of patience that both of us seem to have forgotten for each other. It takes recognition that love alone is not enough to walk a path with your soulmate. A soulmate needs as much nourishing as one self does. It takes so much more. It takes trust, it takes courage in the face of temptation and it takes recognition that fear is a sign that you still want something so badly you are afraid of losing it. If that’s there, then why would we stop fighting to build our path?